Bitter Brew from the ex’s Stew…
I have often wondered what happened with some relationships that keeps the woman angry and dare I say, bitter long after it has ended? I have been divorced and had a couple of failed relationships and each time after a period of hurt and some anger, managed to heal and move on.
I’m am just astounded by the amount of women who are still trying to remain relevant years after the relationship has ended and it’s usually through the children. What purpose does that serve exactly?
The short term joy you feel from making your ex pull at his hair in exasperation, is nothing in comparison to the long term damage it causes the children who are the unintended pawn in it all.
And don’t let the man find happiness and marry a new woman. It’s like a holy war has begun. The time and energy spent trying to make him ” feel your pain” keeps you from experiencing your own new Joy with someone else.
I know way too many women stuck in a time warp of hate, only to look up years later and see how stuck they were in vitriol and essentially left behind. I’m sure men do this too but this blog is especially for my angry and consumed women.
When the children’s lack of performance in school is used to blame for daddy no longer being in the home, you are wrong.
When you encourage mediocrity in school so daddy will come calling or running in frustration, you are wrong.
When you tell your son consistently that daddy is the reason why you are ” suffering” and discuss daddy’s new love with anger and hate, you are wrong.
When you force the children to choose between you and their father, you are wrong.
I could go on but you get the point.
Instead of constantly standing over a cauldron of hate, anger and hurt, stirring all day, step away from the hot pot, take several deep breaths and own your part in the demise of this relationship.
Then remove that apron of guilt, take a bath in love and peace and move on with your life.
Nothing is more unattractive than a bitter person dressed up in heels and a fake smile.
Posted on November 3, 2014, in children, devious women, Education, family, love, men, Mental health, Parent, Relationship, Writing and tagged anger, children, divorce, failed relationships, hurt. Bookmark the permalink. 5 Comments.